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ot One-Off Events
This is perhaps the most important principle.
A single late night means very little.
A new haircut means very little.
A password change means very little.
A private phone call means very little.
But several major changes occurring together may indicate that something in the relationship requires attention.
The goal isn’t to build a case against your partner.
The goal is to understand what is happening.
Cheating Isn’t the Only Possibility
It’s easy to interpret every unusual behavior as evidence of an affair.
But people become distant for many reasons.
Work pressure can consume someone’s attention.